Melissa Bailey Arizpe, Psy.D.

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Who should you tell?

In Uncategorized on July 16, 2011 at 5:37 pm

This week I had an interesting conversation with a patient that was going to have weight loss surgery.  She wanted to know if she should tell her children about the surgery or not.  One of the great things about the lap band particularly is that you lose weight gradually.  It is only a day surgery and usually people are up and about right away.   A lot of patients have the surgery on a Friday and are back to work on Monday morning.   This begs the question, who do you need to tell?

In my experience there are actually a lot of people who have weight loss surgery who do not tell everyone.   Some people only tell their spouse.  It is not really necessary to tell everyone and their brother that you are having the surgery.  Who you decide to tell about it is really a personal choice.  I know that a lot of people do not want to be known as the weight loss surgery poster child at work or with their circle of friends.   You really do not have to tell anyone.  It is a medical procedure and really it is none of anyone’s business but your own.

With the lap band, you lose weight more gradually so really there is no reason to tell a lot of people.  You can simple tell people that you are eating better and exercising, which is hopefully, really true.  The procedure is usually only about thirty to forty-five minutes.  You can just tell your work that you need the day off for some doctor’s appointments.  With the gastric bypass and sleeve, there is more recovery time involved.  Therefore, patients sometimes feel the need to tell more people.  Again, you can if you want but you don’t have to tell anyone, only unless you feel comfortable.

Of course, there are people who do want to tell everyone about their surgery.  This is also acceptable.  It is completely up to you.   No one needs to know anything about it unless you want them to know.  You can make your journey as private or as public as you want.

No matter what you decide, remember to take advantage of the support that your surgeon’s office offers.   This is the most important, especially if you do not tell people.  You want to make sure that you have some people in your corner when the going gets rough!