Melissa Bailey Arizpe, Psy.D.

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Fighting with emotional eating

In Uncategorized on August 10, 2010 at 2:36 am

A popular topic that we have discussed many times before. However, it never seems to go away completely. As I have mentioned in the past, the surgery is only the first step in a new lifelong change in your behaviors. What have you done TODAY to make a positive change in your life towards these steps?

Have you walked around your building during your break instead of checking personal email or making phone calls?

Did you take a parking spot farther from the door from usual?

Did you stop and think if you were really physically hungry or were you bored, frustrated, or just wasn’t thinking about what you were putting in your mouth?

Did you chew your food thoroughly and slowly before you got to that point that you felt like it was going to come back up?

Did you avoid those foods that will make you dump?

Did you get in your 60 to 100 grams of protein in for the day?

How much water did you drink today?

Did you avoid toxic people who tend to be triggers for overeating?

I could go on and on but I think this is a good start to get you thinking. Your new life is one that needs to be nurtured all the time. Remember when you were in school and had to take the time to study? Well, you need to think as your new life after weight loss surgery as a project but the subject is YOU. This means asking yourself these questions during the day. Put post-it notes around to remind you of what you need to do. Choose healthy people to associate with. Pick up a self-help book. After all, in school you had to do a lot of reading and writing to master a subject. This is especially true for those of you who do everything for everyone else. And you know who you are.

Just a reminder, I have my new chat group on Google and I will be starting a conference call support group–date to be announced.

Now get out there and take care of yourself!


Each moment is a new one

In Uncategorized on August 3, 2010 at 3:20 pm

Have you ever had one of those days where you ate what you were not supposed to? My husband who is a diabetic (go figure, a Weight Loss Psychologist–no one listens to me at home) had a pretzel and a pretzel dog at the mall. Later I see that he has eaten a “no sugar added” key lime pie tart. Towards the end of the afternoon he was just about in a daze from what he ate. I pointed out to him all of the things that he ate that day that are NOT on his menu (of course he loved that). However, he did realize that is why he was feeling so bad.

So often we do the same thing. We say we are just going to take a bite of something that could cause dumping or get us off track. Our usual attitude is to say, “Well, I blew it now, might as well eat the whole thing.” That is the wrong attitude. You really need to see each moment for itself. Let’s face it. We are all going to eat something we are not supposed to at some point. Let’s be realistic. It is important to plan for those moments and know that they are going to happen. But, guess what? There are more moments were you can choose to make the right choice. For example, after my husband overloaded on carbs, for dinner he had a salad with grilled chicken. And believe me he could have just as easily gone out to Burger King. If you screw up eating the wrong thing, then the next thing that goes into your mouth should be something that is good for you.

Also, remember to keep up with that high protein diet. The more protein you have, the less hungry you are going to be for those things that are off limits while you are in the weight loss stage. You how I say your mantra needs to be “Protein Protein Protein.”

Also, just a reminder that you go to my new Google chat room at
to get additional support when you need it!